A gentle transition to motherhood

3 Words for Daddy

Posted by on Jun 12, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Last week I got all ready to post a timely little tribute to you, awesome father of our four fantastic, grown up children. I was thinking this was going to be super simple.

Even though we were poor blah-blah …  such a great collaborator starting with our first Lamaze class blah-blah … and remember how you sure could swaddle a baby blah-blah … and those hilarious things the kids used to say and oh how we laughed haha-blah-blah … and even though we’re divorced ahem-blah … and WOW what a grreeeat DAD!

I was wringing out draft after draft hoping to produce the just-right capsule of heart warming Daddy times. Why did each version read more like a sleepy collegial salute than the powerful love bomb I’d expected and wanted it to be?  Eventually it snapped that at least part of the problem was my vantage point. My “Daddy” picture is from my perspective — wife, ex-wife, mommy. Mine is a parallax view of the high, low and everyday bits and pieces of our lives as parents. And it was just . . . off.

This project needed a shift. So I texted each of the kids, asking them for three words, “the first three that come to mind,” about their Dad.  I had loosely planned to use their words as dots to connect the Father’s Day story – their words creating the background onto which I could project my Daddy highlight reel of funny, sweet, moving moments (and a spectacular highlight reel it is).

I’d barely finished texting before the kids starting shooting me their words so fast it made my head spin. Ah.

Here was the love bomb. Here was some kinda 3-D view. Here’s you, Daddy, in an incomplete yet  just-right nutshell:

Kind, generous, helpful
Stable, tall, stoic
Accepting, hilarious, refined(ish)
Strong, selfless, silly, safe

MGAAt least for this occasion, my nostalgic journey is superfluous. Each of your kids sees what in this moment really matters most:  you.

You’re right here and now, in the present (here, where we are). Father of our four fantastic children, I’m grateful and honored to make your acquaintance through their eyes . . . and in the first words that came to mind. Super simple after all.

P.S. You’d better have a Happy Father’s Day.

 

Kira Dorrian and Tracy Adams are Seattle-based Clinical Hypnotherapists and HypnoBirthing® Practitioners, each a mom of twins. Together they have created HypnoMothering™, a class designed to help prepare women for a gentle transition into motherhood, and a safe space for new mothers to be seen, heard, and supported.

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